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Chika Ike shares her experience as a victim of domestic violence

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Nollywood star actress Chika Ike have come out to share her experience as a victim of a domestic violence. The highly sort after Nigerian actress who got married at the age of 20 to her violent husband, walked out of the abusive relationship in 2011 and officially filed a divorce this year 2013. 

Chika Ike on movie set


Domestic violence against women is a growing issue in the Nigerian society of today. History was made in Nigeria March this year when the Nigerian Senate passed a law prohibiting gender based violence. On its third reading, the 360 member House of Representatives of the National Assembly of the Federal Republic of Nigeria passed the Violence against Persons (Prohibition) Bill. A law which aims to eliminate, or reduce to a minimum, the cases of gender based violence in the country.

Without further ado, we provide to you below - Chika Ike's experience as a victim of domestic violence during her marriage. Chika shared her experience via her Facebook page over the weekend (August 10): 

"The past three years has been a very emotional period for me, I focused my energy on work and to build back my self esteem. Its been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I've been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I've tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve that there's really no right time because every second of the day, lives are being lost due to domestic violence. I was a victiim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason i left my marriage, aside other reasons.

Growing up as a girl. I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn't understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions, after every beating he pleads, cries and says it won't happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him.

Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other definitions for it. I started loosing my self pride,self esteem , self worth, and most painfully i lost a pregnancy (Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was...

I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don't know my story,I guess that's why they are ignorant. I was 20yrs old and very naïve to the world when I got married .“ They said I married for money“ LOL. I was married to a corporate guy,who had a 9 - 5 job in a bank, Lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe.. So do the maths! . I married for love. I did a traditional wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding. So that's how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the carmels back was during a heated argument he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.

Am not saying this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believes.i am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because its a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real." 

We'll like to recommend few videos on our platform using film-making to depict domestic violence against women in relationships. One of such is the new Nollywood movie 2013 to premiere soon at Odeon Cinema 'BATTERED'. From the title, you should be able to tell already it relates to violence.

Do you have any opinion to share regarding Chika Ike's experience as a victim of domestic violence? This story is filed under: Nollywood Gist.

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    God that your ex husband is wicked, well you free now make you open your eyes this time before you enter another one. But at times in life we meet wrong ones before meeting right ones i pray God lead you or send you a true man who will love you just the way bible talk about love.